Yes, I know, I didn’t invent this. But I’ve used it. Because it works.

Stop talking to your ex. Don’t call. Don’t text. No contact means no contact, for any reason whatsoever. Your ex is sick of you, that’s why she left. Give her some time alone. Have you ever heard the saying “familiarity breeds contempt?” Truer words have never been spoken.

Trying to force contact is just delaying the inevitable. The longer you force contact, the more tired of you she gets, and the longer the “no contact” period will have to be.

But for how long?

Depends. Around 30 days is a safe average, but it could be longer or shorter depending on your situation. Some will tell you to worry about length – but length is not nearly as important as how you act when you are in contact.

Ideally, you’ll want your ex to call you. But incase she doesn’t you need a backup plan.

But guys, the last thing you want to do is call her with a corny excuse for calling. She’ll see right through it, and you’ll look stupid. You’d be better off calling with no explanation.

When you call, there are a number of ways it can go, but you need to have the fundamentals down before you think about the specifics. Don’t forget the #1 rule – don’t break down. The last thing you want to do is talk about your relationship or get emotional in any way.

Keep it light and relaxed. Don’t do anything you wouldn’t do normally. No tricks. Don’t try to make her jealous, don’t argue, don’t cry, just act completely natural (calm and confident), as you would when talking to any other woman.

Ask her how she’s doing. Don’t talk about yourself (that’s just a general rule). Leave that to her imagination – mystery and curiosity are huge attraction drivers.

Don’t ask her if she has a new boyfriend. Don’t get into anything that isn’t completely casual. If she brings the relationship up, go with it, but be careful not to slip too deep into that conversion and/or get emotional about it. No matter what she says or does, nothing justifies you acting like a female – ever.

Talk for 5 minutes. Hang up, and we’ll go from there.

Part of being confident (one of the most important “man” traits) is being calm. Anything but calmness indicates insecurity and therefore weakness.

It’s a common misconception that the angry guy is manly. He’s not. He’s an emotional wreck. Crying, yelling, they’re the same thing. They indicate that you are not in control of your own emotions and are therefore weak.

There’s an old analogy about the tree, the blade of grass, and the reed.

• The tree is hard, but he is brittle. He appears strong, but with enough force, he cracks completely. This is the angry man.
• The grass is soft. With the slightest breeze, he lays flat. He doesn’t break, but he never stands up to an obstacle. This is the crying man.
• The reed is strong, but he is flexible. He stands, he bends when necessary, but he never breaks. This is the man that you should be.

Guys, the last thing you want to do is let your ex know how screwed up you are, whether it be manifested in anger, sadness, or anything similar. Keep your cool.

Now you’re probably thinking “but if I show her how much I care, she’ll realize that I am a good choice.”

Damn it! Did you not read my last 2 articles? Stop with the logic! Appealing to logic is an exercise in futility. You have to spark attraction. You can’t persuade a woman with logic to be attracted to you.

Keep it light. Keep it relaxed. You have to maintain control of the situation, maintain control of your emotions if you want this to work. I can not stress this enough. Just remember that by losing control of your emotions, you lose control of yourself. How do you expect to have any power if you don’t even have power over your own actions?

Power is key. You don’t want your ex to grudgingly take you back – you want her to want you back. You want to hold the cards in this relationship, otherwise you’re a rag doll, with your life in the hands of your woman’s current mood – and we all know how women change their moods.

So no matter what, don’t break down. Always maintain control. This is how you command respect – not just with your woman, but in all areas of life. This alone will do you a world of good here. What you don’t do can be just as important, or even more important than what you do do.

If you want to spark attraction, you need to appeal to your ex’s instinctual attraction mechanism. And remember, women like men. Strong men. Men who don’t break down.

Attraction. It’s what drives everything. It drives all of our social relationships – and not just romantic (no homo). Attraction is what draws you to the people you’re drawn to. Those who know how to attract hold the power. They hold the emotional capital.

Attraction is the magnetic pull of the mind. It’s just a concept – but to understand it is a sure path to power.

I’ve always maintained that attraction is the single most important thing in a relationship. And the fact that this site is focused on women only gives that point more validity.

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We’ve all seen it. The beautiful girl leaves the nice guy to be with the asshole who treats her like shit. What is going on here? How can this be explained?

Attraction.

After all, there is no logical reason for her to stick with the jerk. None. But time and time again, it happens. This is real life folks, this isn’t the movies where the nice guy, after about 2 hours and a bucket of popcorn of suffering, winds up with the hot girl. Back here in reality, the nerd gets his ass kicked, the jerk gets the girl, screws her sister and all of her friends, and still has a lineup of women who want him.

What the hell is going on?

Attraction.

For whatever reason, Mr. Jerk is attractive.

Women are attracted to a number of things – but we’re running out of time so let’s just put forward the most important point. Women are women. Women want men. Women are biologically programmed to want men. Not only physically, but mentally as well. That’s what this all boils down to my friends.

We’ll get into the details of “manliness” later – but I will leave you with this for now. Do not confuse masculinity with machismo. There is nothing less manly than a non-man trying to act manly.

Read the following statement, and believe it. It is a fact.

It’s not her, it’s you.

Yes, you. Your ex doesn’t owe you a relationship. If she loses her attraction for you, that is your fault. You’re not being a man – at least not an attractive man.

And yes, she lost her attraction for you. 99% of the time, that’s the cause of a breakup. She wasn’t “too busy for a relationship” or “not ready to commit”, she just stopped liking you.

There are two parts to a relationship. Emotion and logic. Logic will get you a girl based on convenience, based on money, based on how much of a “nice guy” you are. But at the end of the day, logic means squat. We’re talking about females here.

Once her attraction (remember guys, that’s emotional) starts to dip, you’re screwed. No amount of begging, chocolate, or logic will get her back.

We all know women stay with men who treat them like shit, and we all know women leave men who treat them nicely. The important thing to understand is that females are not crazy, they simply think differently than men. It’s all a perfectly logical cost benefit analysis, the reason it might seem crazy to you, you stupid caveman, is that you don’t understand the factors that weigh into it! Chances are you’re focused on logic: “if I’m nice to here, she’ll stay with me.” That makes sense right?

Wrong.

Women do not stay in relationships like you stay in a business arrangement. Women stay in relationships based on emotion. Don’t let that dishearten you though, because even though emotion is the antithesis of logic, logic can indeed explain and even manipulate it.

In the vast majority of cases, you have the power to offset those logical negatives in your relationship by increasing attraction. Best of all, you live in the modern emasculated world, where the average man is a total pussy! This makes it just that much easier in comparison.

More coming soon…

Remember guys, it’s not her, it’s you. Don’t mope around. You’re not a victim. You have the power to change yourself.